Counselling and Psychotherapy in Derby.
Why see a therapist:
When we have a problem it is normal to want to talk about it. However, it can sometimes be difficult to know who we can trust to share our problem with. It can be hard to speak with family or friends and it is not that easy for those closest to us to be able to support us. We might not know what to say or be concerned about what might happen if trying to talk goes wrong. Sharing our thoughts, feelings and experiences with a professionally qualified psychotherapist in a safe and confidential environment can give us the support that we need.
More about Counselling:
When we are children we create beliefs about ourselves, certain ways of being and how we relate with others. This is to adjust and make the best of our childhood and family situations in which we find ourselves.
We carry into our adulthood these beliefs and attitudes. As a result, we may have problems with our self-confidence, we can struggle with depression, our relationships may become difficult for us and we behave in ways which can restrict our happiness and also our ability to respond effectively to the different events that adult life present to us.
If our parents found it difficult to give us the love and care we wanted, we can carry into adulthood an expectation of support from others which restricts the amount of love and care we allow into our lives now.
If you experienced terror and abuse in childhood you are likely to carry the effects of such trauma into your adult lives and create defensive and avoidant ways of being.
If you have not been able to resolve a present day problem it may be because unfinished business from earlier in your live needs attention. Following a trauma or bereavement we may benefit from receiving professional and compassionate support through the healing process from a trained psychotherapist and counsellor.
All approaches to counselling and psychotherapy emphasise the importance and quality of the relationship between therapist and client. Successful therapy involves the systematic use of this relationship to produce changes in thinking, feelings and behaviour. That is why it is so important that you find the counsellor who feels right for you.
My Background and Philosophy:
I trained for two years to become a counsellor and a further four years to qualify as a psychotherapist. When I qualified as a psychotherapist I became a practitioner member of the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).
I undertook my own personal therapy throughout training and learned a great deal about my 'true self'. Being in a healthy therapeutic relationship with a psychotherapist who always believed in me had a significant impact on me. As I became to understand the 'real' me, healthy relationships with other people became possible. I realised I had a purpose in my life with a lot of potential.
The therapeutic relationship I shared had a profound impact on me as an individual and I was able to change my life for the positive. This is what I want to offer my clients - there is hope. Research has shown that the quality of the working relationship between therapist and client is paramount in determining the effectiveness of therapy.
How Long Does Counselling Take?
Counselling can vary. Some clients decide to focus on a specific issue for a short time, whilst other clients have deeper issues that need a longer-term focus. I want you to feel comfortable if your choice is to continue into longer-term, as I understand that counselling is a commitment in terms of both time and money.
Should we agree to continue to work together after our assessment meeting, I will offer you a further six sessions. After this we can review our agreement to determine whether counselling feels of benefit to you. I adhere to the ethical requirement of the UKCP not to prolong counselling for longer than is necessary.
I am a counsellor who can offer support to clients who live in the Derby, Nottingham, Ilkeston, Borrowash, Belper and Burton upon Trent area.
Is counselling any different to psychotherapy? I believe, having trained and qualified both as a counsellor and a psychotherapist, that the two have many similarities and bring about change through the relationship between therapist and client.
Psychotherapy offers a wider understanding of ourselves and our way of relating in the world. It teaches us to understand that our childhood relationships and family patterns shape our behaviour in adulthood. With self-awareness our childhood thought and behaviour patterns lose their potency and we discover we have the potential to live life more as fully functioning human beings.
The benefit of this will be in our increased sense of how we are to ourselves and with others. With a better understanding of the impact that our past has on us in our present, we can accept ourselves for who we truly are. Ultimately, intimate relationships no longer present as a potential threat.
What to Look for in a Therapist
Counselling and psychotherapy training varies in length and depth. For this reason it is important to check a therapist's professional qualifications i.e.
It is also important to know whether they too have experienced their own personal therapy. You should ask whether they belong to a recognised governing body that has a complaints and standards procedure (such as BACP, UKCP, etc.). Please feel free to ask me about my professional credentials at any time.